Dressing is a basic act of life but it is not simple. Dressing is both a physical and an emotional act. We choose each piece based on emotions and justify our choices to both ourselves and others with rational reasons. (Men do it too.)
There are stages of emotions we go through. We begin with stages 1 & 2 below. Stage 3 becomes more important as we age or become wives, partners and mothers. By the time we are over 50, many Baby Boomer women are starting to question why they wear what they wear. If you find the courage to be brave, you will go to stage 4 through possible emotional upheavals to a satisfying and exciting personal self-development. If it becomes too hard or life throws you a curve ball, you may revolve through stages 1 to 3. Without support to be courageous, you will forever be in a confused emotional relationship with buying and wearing clothes.
Emotional Stage 1 – Dressing for Peer Approval (fashion industry, your circle of friends or for work)
Emotional Stage 2 – Dressing to Appeal to a Potential Partner (male or female)
Emotional Stage 3 – Dressing for Female Approval (mother, family, friends and social or business circles)
Emotional Stage 4 – Dressing to Be Wholly Yourself
When you dress to be yourself, the right clothes for you free you and allow you to be confidently you. Because you are the one who examines yourself in the mirror, you need to look at your image and feel comfortable; to like what you see and be excited to be you.
If your image causes you to worry that your husband, partner, mother, family, friends, business colleagues or clients will not like you, then you are not truly being you. You are a people pleaser and that is very stressful because you are constantly listening intently and second-guessing someone else’s body language. It takes year to learn that the comments others make and their body language, most of the time, represent how they feel about themselves not how they view you.
Dressing to be yourself allows you to have a clothing wardrobe that is the perfect size for you. If you can’t recognise who you really are, you need the unbiased and gentle help of an expert to show you how to blossom into your true self.
We all have the potential to do great things. And it’s taking care of the little things that frees our mind to tackle what our heart and intuition want us to truly concentrate on.
Come along next week to my Minimalist Wardrobe Talk for Womenspace to find out why the perfect minimalist wardrobe for you is both freeing and exciting.
If you can’t make it and feel that it is time to finally make dressing easier so that your mind and emotions are free to do their important work, call me for a 30 minute Discovery Session. If we both feel that we can work together and you trust me, we’ll start work on creating your simpler wardrobe that reflects all the parts of you.