Even Image Consultants suffer from Body Envy. Well, I do.
I have a ‘clear legs’ envy. I have freckles and red marks all over my legs. Oh, how I sometimes secretly envy those women with beautiful clear legs!
The reality is that this is my family heritage. There’s not a lot I can do about it.
We all have bits of our body that we are not particularly fussed about. These are the bits we perceive as our body flaws. We openly or secretly envy those women who appear perfect in our eyes and say ‘If only I looked like that’. Some women are tempted to go and have plastic surgery or spend a lot of money on products and services that promise to change their body flaws into assets.
There is another approach for changing your perception about your body flaws. It requires a change of mindset followed by a new game plan.
Perception Changes Everything
Because we all live in our minds, we are our own worst critic. When we look in the mirror, we most often see our flaws. We make little things into big things. When others meet us, they see us as a whole. This happens whether they know us or not. Its common human nature to quickly scan someone we meet and put them higher on a scale of ‘loveliness’ than we rate ourselves.
So, if other people are not zeroing in on your flaws, what if you changed your thinking?
Forget spending a lot of money, time and effort on procedures that may not work. Instead change your thinking to ‘What if I turned my body flaw into an asset?’ That thought changes your perception about yourself and lets you play an entirely different dressing game.
Turning Your Leg Body Flaws Into an Asset
I meet many women who quietly tell me that they do not like their legs, hiding them under baggy pants and long skirts.
I urge you to change your perception.
I refuse to hide my legs. I wear knee-length skirts and dresses with bare legs. A little bit of heel on my shoes gives my legs a lovelier shape. When it’s important for me to look very professional, I wear my favourite brand of stockings that have a sheen to them. They both disguise a few marks and make my legs an asset.
If your legs are a bit solid, always spend your money on tapered pants or jeans ie straight leg designs. These skim over your thighs and calves and turn solid legs into a slimmer asset.
Recently I tried on these high-waisted Danni Minogue Petite Skinny Jeans at Target. I have avoided skinny jeans in the past. This time I went up a size and they fitted perfectly and turned my chunky, marked legs into an asset. Forget your obsession with wearing only a specific size in clothing and opt for flattering fit instead. Then don’t tell anyone what size you are wearing.
Here’s the secret and the fun of the dressing game. When you find a fit that flatters your perceived flaw, buy more of that style. After that, slowly get rid of older style clothes that no longer flatter you.
Turning Your Arm Body Flaws into an Asset
Do you look at your arms and see bingo wings or too many wrinkles? Do you consider your arms a big flaw?
Change your perception and concentrate on buying dresses, tops and jackets that flatter your perceived flaw while covering them in a modern, stylish way. All these styles are from Myer.
Bell sleeves are in fashion at the moment. Both the left and centre bell sleeve designs cover bingo wings and wrinkles and draw attention to the design rather than your arm flaws.
The Basque black & white gingham top on the left is for those who like a clean, natural look. The orange Basque top in the centre is for those women who like a bit of sensuality with a sleeve that swirls. It’s the opposite of the girly frill. This top comes in different colours and striped patterns and the sheer bell sleeve provides an interesting texture contrast. I bought two of these tops.
The Basque cross-front blouse on the right has pleated angel sleeves that, while big enough to cover your arm flaws, fall softly and gives a slim appearance. It is a modern classic with a twist that draws attention to its design rather than to your body.
Note that the left and right tops have ¾ sleeves that end at your arm’s slimmest part.
Turning Your Tummy Body Flaw into an Asset
I have yet to meet a woman who does not complain about her tummy. It is our most commonly perceived body flaw.
Play the game of turning it into an asset.
Buy stylish modern dresses that flatter you and suggest a smaller tummy than you have. ‘Hide and Skim’ are the key words here.
Wrap dresses are a modern classic and they come in lots of variations. You simply look for the one that work best for you.
The Navy cross-over wrap dress on the Left comes from Birdsnest. It crosses over at your waist has a front side tie. It is a slimmer fit. The Maya wrap dress from Jacqui E in the middle crosses over under your bust and has spandex in the material for a better fit. On the right is a Scarlet wrap dress from Jacqui E. It has more swing in the skirt and a tie that can be done up at the back or the front.
Your second option for turning your tummy flaw into an asset are the ‘Fit & Flare’ dresses.
These are another modern classic style that comes in lots of variations.
These dresses are shaped to your waist and have A-shaped skirts. Today’s modern materials make them more flattering than the stiff materials of our youth.
Some define your waist and some suggest your waist.
The Angie Dress from Jacqui E on the left has a defined waist and a crossover piece at the waistline instead of a belt. The soft crepe Cindy Dress by Leona Edmiston from Myer (3rd along) has a fitted waist with a self-material belt to suggest and blend.
Some designers have interpreted the ‘Fit & Flare’ style by using the princess line to suggest a waist and adding flare in wider skirts. The navy and white spot Capture Dress from Ezibuy on the right is a princess line with godet inserts in the skirt. Second from the left is a Maiocchi Design from Birdsnest with added pleats to the princess line from the waist down.
These are simply a few ideas for turning the most common body flaws that we women complain about into
assets that show your style and confidence.
Nobody is perfect. People see you as a whole not as individual bits. Make the most of your perceived body flaws as well as make the most of your best features AND go change your world.
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